There are some aspects of parenting that are difficult and unique to teenage daughters.
My husband and I have been binge-watching Friday Night Lights and these parenting situations come up often on the show. In one scene, the father walks in on his 17-year-old daughter in bed with her boyfriend. The parents then have to talk to her about her feelings for this boy, that she is under no obligation to continue to have sex if she no longer wants to, and the use of protection. It is a difficult conversation for both parties but one they had to have. On the show they do a good job of showing the struggles of parenting a daughter at that age.
After we watched the episode, my husband said that he’s sad that he won’t have these conversations with Caroline, but also glad because they are so difficult.
I feel so sad that he may never parent a teenage girl.
Men in his family generally have boys. He is one of 3 boys, and his brothers have 3 boys between their two families. Caroline was the first girl in the family in a long time. What if we don’t have any more girls?
Infant loss is so much more than that. We may have lost our opportunity to shape a young woman, and that is a loss too.